There is no way to deny it: dating changes us. Somewhere between the good dates, the tragic endings and the wild stories you can’t wait to share with friends lie intimate truths about ourselves and the people we choose to spend time with. Our matchmakers have heard it all and we want to share this wisdom with you. Not every date will be perfect, but with the right wisdom you can make better choices in the future and maybe even partner with a professional matchmaking service for even better quality dates you can count on.
You want to date someone who says what they mean and means what they say. Good conversation is the foundation for any healthy relationship, so you want to make sure all forms of communication flow naturally and that both of you contribute equally to the conversation when you’re together. Think quality over quantity.
Success is Polarizing
People will either love you or hate you for your success. Our matchmaking services try to pair compatible couples who are generally on the same page when it comes to their careers specifically for this reason. It’s important that your significant other understand your career and how important it is for your personal happiness.
Deal Breakers Exist for a Reason
Future plans and personal preferences matter. If you promised yourself you would never date a smoker or really desire a partner who also wants kids, stick to your intuition and wait for someone who fulfills those core needs. You’ll be much happier – and your partner will be, too.
You’re Pretty Awesome
First date conversations usually end up feeling like an interview, so talk yourself up! It doesn’t hurt to have five or six bragging points in mind that you can bring up casually during conversation if necessary.
Your “Type” is Irrelevant
Whether you’ve gone for clean-cut bookish dates or trendy hipster types, your lifelong partner could be anyone. Our matchmaking services help narrow down the dating pool, so you only go on a date when it’s with someone truly incredible – and completely right for you.
The right person will never make you feel like you have to apologize for your physical appearance or an inherent personality trait. A really great date will build your confidence and establish a safe space you will both appreciate.
Guys & Girls Really Can’t Be Friends
“Let’s just be friends” is code for, “I’ve moved on.” Don’t waste time trying to stay friends with an ex. It’s a painful reminder of things that simply weren’t meant to be and can prevent both you and your ex from moving on with your lives. Instead, focus your attention on the here and now. Your date will thank you!
Instincts matter. Most people are able to form their first impressions of a date within the first few minutes (some say seconds) of meeting each other. These first impressions are usually pretty accurate. If your friends have to convince you to give your date another chance, there probably isn’t enough chemistry to last a lifetime.
Your Time is Valuable
You know what your clients pay you for your time, but you probably don’t apply that same value to your personal time. Spending time with a date you really like is an investment in your future, so it’s okay to relax a little and enjoy your time together. If you aren’t feeling it, though, it’s fine to cut your losses and move on.
Live Your Life
There is no reason to postpone your life just because Mr. or Mrs. Right took a detour. Go hiking, take a cooking class, or attend a show. This will keep you from getting bored, and it will also give you plenty to talk about on your next date. Bonus points if you learn a new skill!
Dating brings out the best – and the worst – in all of us, but it is important to remain hopeful that the next date could very well be the one you’ve been waiting for. Take a chance on love and call Kelleher International today to learn more!